When you’ve reached a certain point in your life and career, it’s natural to start getting used to these things. You may be extremely successful and not even know it.
I end up being so busy every day that I often forget that I’m actually successful. Being ambitious naturally leads to being goal oriented so all I see is the next goal rather than reflect on how far I’ve come in my life.
From my experience, I think it’s because in order to succeed in any area of life, you’re naturally ambitious and always looking towards improving or achieving the next milestone. Since you’re always looking forward, you’re successful – and by consequence it’s easy to miss what’s already in front of you.
If you can relate to any of these things below, you’re probably a lot more successful than you realize.
You don’t worry about your bills
The vast majority of people have “too much month left at the end of their money” and are living paycheck to paycheck.
If you happen to be in the small minority of people who don’t need to worry about meeting their bills every month, you’re already successful.
It is a terrible and scary feeling not knowing if you’ll be able to meet your obligations and pay your bills on the first of each month. Most of us have been there – and I lived this way for decades while I built up my career.
If this feeling is something you can’t relate to any more, you’re ahead of the 80% of people in America who have this worry every month – and that puts you in the minority.
You can say “no”
A huge luxury among successful people is the ability to say no. Whether it’s turning down a new project at work, or a new customer. It doesn’t matter if it’s because you’re stretched too thin, you don’t like this new customer or project, or you just choose to use your time differently.
Most people have no option to say “no” and they need to accept everything that comes through their door in order to survive.
If you are among the small few who can decline at your discretion, you’re extremely far ahead of most people – and you have the freedom to say “no” when most people are forced to say “yes.”
You can leave right now
Whether you own your own business or are in a position where you can dictate how your time is spent – if you can get up and take the rest of the day off on a whim, you’re hugely successful.
It means you have the option of freedom ok your terms. It’s something most people don’t have. The ability to simply decide “I don’t feel like working today” – the idea is impossible to comprehend by most people’s standards. Most people are told when to come to work, when to eat lunch, when to leave.
Whether you’re a business owner or just in a position in your career where you can decide to do what you want when you want – you’ve made it.
If you decide that you feel like going out to catch a movie right now just for the hell of it, if no one can ultimately stop you and you’re free to choose how to spend your time today, that’s a luxury most people never know.
If thjs actually is an option for you, be grateful. It means you’ve made it to a level that only successful people get to play on.
You can make more money if you wanted to
For most people, they’re working a dead end job that will always pay them the same amount. They may or may not get a small raise in the future, but for the most part, they can’t earn more money or move up in their careers if they wanted to.
Whether you’re an entrepreneur that can grow your business or an employee who can find creative ways to increase your earnings – you’re free to make more if you want. You have no ceilings and no limits.
Like most signs of success, it revolves around freedom. The freedom to earn more or have the possibility or avenues to do so, is a huge sign that you’re successful.
It may seem like such a small thing – but it’s not. Most people are confined to their paycheck and less some extraordinary circumstance, they don’t have any option to earn more money unless they find a new job or win the lottery. That means they are stuck.
But the truly successful can make their own terms. They can expand their business or achieve bonuses in their work. They can use their creativity to do more.
It means if you really wanted to, you can spread your wings and soar higher than everyone else.
Just the ability to have this option is foreign to most others and having this privelage – regardless of whether you take it or not – is a blessing.
People admire you or want to be like you
Call it jealousy, envy or admiration. The average person is never talked about by others. They’re usually mediocre on every level so naturally, no one notices them or strives to be like them.
Being successful is all about freedom. It means you’re more free than others because you have what others done. It comes with ups and downs but in the end, if other people want what you have – whether it’s things you own or achievements you’ve earned – someone wants to be like you. You’re the person they look up to. You’re their sign of success and you’re living in it.
Honestly, how many people have you met that embody some form of success – enough where other people want to be in your shoes?
Even if you know of just one person who envies you, you’re successful. Success comes with “haters” and it means you’re ahead of the average person. It’s a sure sign that you’re successful.
People seek your advice
Whether you’re successful in business, relationships or anything else in life, a sure sign you’ve made it – or at least that you’re on the right track – is when people seek your counsel.
People don’t seek advice from the average Joe because you don’t need advice to be average. If you’re above average on any level, you’re the one people seek out.
There are lots of people who want to be this way – so they are constantly trying to give advice to others – often unwanted. They desperately want to be heard and want to be important.
The truly successful don’t need to chase down others. They come to you because you’ve achieve what they dream of – so they seek your help and advice.
If you’re at the point in your life where people want to listen and learn from you, you’re doing something right.
Like other successful people, I love helping others and am always grateful to be in a position to answer any questions or give advice to someone who asks. It’s an honor and privelage to be someone that others can look up to.
I have met plenty of losers who want so badly to be heard yet they haven’t accomplished anything worthwhile. So naturally they don’t have any valuables insight and are never asked their opinions on much at all. In turn, these people get louder and more aggressive as they insist on being heard. The truly successful don’t need to insist in antrhjng because others seek them out.
Success in any area of life is earned but it’s also a privelage. Sharing what you know with others is something only the truly successful can offer when asked. And graciously being able to help someone is an amazing feeling.
You don’t care what other people think
When I was struggling when I first started my career, I was constantly comparing myself to others. I was trolling Facebook or comparing what I had accomplished with everyone else because I always felt like I was behind.
I eventually learned that successful people don’t waste their time comparing their lives to others. They’re too busy to dream because they’re making their dreams their reality.
They desperately want to “make it” so they never stop competing and comparing.
After I “made it” I noticed this feeling naturally faded away. It seemed like a by-product of success was that I had grown into a person that didn’t care what others were doing. I was able to pursue my own dreams and life without wondering what Joe Blow was doing and where I was in contrast.
I learned that when you have enough on your plate and enough success in your life, you’re too busy to concern yourself with antrhjng that doesn’t make you feel good. When your dreams are unfolding in front of you, it seems less and less important how others are doing.
I have met tons of people who are losing in life. They walk around like victims that have no control over what they do or where they’ll end up in life – so they constantly envy others and want to see others fail.
It is a toxic mindset that kills success and it’s obvious why some of the biggest losers I’ve ever met are also the most jealous and most consumed people who never can be satisfied. All they care about is how others look at them. It’s a small minded trait of the losing individual.
They care so much about what others are doing and what they are thinking of them that they don’t get anywhere at all.
When you’re successful and secure in what you’ve accomplished, you don’t bother with caring what others think of you. When you’re too busy writing your own life story, you lose the desire to read other people’s stories.
That is a truly amazing feeling of freedom that comes with the territory of success.
If you’re finding your dreams coming true, you don’t care what others think of you. You write your own story and being able to harness this powerful mindset is a huge sign that you’re winning and dominating in life.
It’s a mindset
Being successful is something to always be grateful for. It takes hard work and sacrifice to get there. Whether you’re already winning or on the way to dominating life, keep these things in mind and remind yourself daily that even if you don’t feel like a success – you may be doing much better than you realize.
If you’re successful that means you have high standards. So it’s easy to miss out on the obvious fact that you are successful.
You realize you’re already successful and the only thing that will change is that you’ll become more and more successful – but you’re already there.
Success is about freedom. Some people run away or try and fill their lives with meaningless stuff – when in the end, what truly makes you successful will also give you the life of options – the options to do what you want and do what you love.
When you stop and think, you may be surprised to find that you’ve “made it” for a long one now – and you’re continuing to win in life because winning has become your “normal.”